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In today’s age of online communication, social skills and etiquette are suffering. Nowhere is this more apparent than at the populated watering holes of the young, where many men and women fumble about the process of trying to make a hookup happen.

While there are still those who have the natural social demeanor to make every night feasible for fellatio, fucking or some other type of fun, these are the few and proud for whom getting what they want is as ingrained as are their fingerprints in their DNA.

For the rest of us, sealing the deal doesn’t come quite so naturally. If you fall in the latter camp (and it’s nothing to be ashamed about), below are some tips and tricks to help you spend less nights alone.

Tip #1: Less (people) is more.
Big groups are great for…actually, big groups suck in almost all social situations. The more friends you are out with, the more opportunities there will be for you to be seen as loud, obnoxious or unapproachable. Remember, everything your group does applies to you by default.

Your group is full of nervous, sweaty guys or girls who don’t go out much? Must mean you’re one of them. Your groups is loud and drunk with a frat mentality? Must mean you share that mentality. Choose a wing man (or wing woman) who understands the game a little rather than an evening out with all your old classmates, roommates, co-workers, etc. Those situations can be entertaining but they’re less than ideal if you want to get lucky.

Tip #2: Have a purpose and hide it well.
Nothing says another night with the hand quite like a table of people who aren’t interacting with each other but instead look around at other people. Men are especially guilty of doing this. If you can’t even entertain your friend, what hope do you have of looking like an appealing option to a member of the opposite sex? It’s also very telling of why you’re there, and this is one time when you don’t want your intentions to be so obvious. While you do want to survey the room as quickly and covertly as possible from time to time in order to determine who you might be interested in, you don’t want to look like two or more strangers sharing a table.

Tip #3: The eyes have it.
One of the biggest mistakes people make is failing to use their peepers to lure and attract members of the opposite sex. Once you find a women or man you’re interested in, it’s time to plant a seed. Men especially can make significant strides in letting women know they’re interested simply by taking a look and making sure to get caught. Don’t immediately turn away if you are caught or you’ll come across as too shy but likewise, don’t stare too long or it’s borderline creepy. Women can also use their eyes to great affect but be forewarned that fear of rejection will likely mean you’ll need more to get him to come over (especially if you’re with friends, and let’s face it…you will be).

Tip #4 Look for cues and make a move.
She (or he) glances back at you more than twice and there’s nobody better looking than you sitting behind you, it’s time to make a move. Strike up a conversation using tip # 5.

Tip #5 Don’t be shy.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, it takes giant balls to walk over to another person at another table and attempt to make conversation, but you will do it because you know that unless you do, nothing’s going to happen. Don’t wait until the person you’re interested in gets up to go to the bathroom or order them a drink from afar or any of that cheesy business. Just bite the bullet, go over and introduce yourself. Ask the person if they’d like to sit and have a drink with you for a while and don’t be insulting about it. Don’t say, “You look bored” or anything that would detract from their company.

Tip #6 Don’t let failure deter you.
If you fail, it’s probably best to leave the scene of the accident or wait until the characters and circumstances are different before trying again, but do try again. Getting laid is a numbers game, and even the picky will acknowledge that the more you put yourself out there, the more chances you’ll have to succeed. Picking up someone at a bar, or even obtaining a phone number, is truly a situation where if nothing is ventured, nothing will be gained.

Good luck, and as always be safe, sane and mutually consenting.