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Don’t worry, this post isn’t about feminine hygiene products or many a man’s tendency to avoid showering a little too often. It’s about avoiding the pitfalls of a stale sex life. We’ve all been there, reverting to the familiar positions and moves that seem to get the job done for us and our partner time and time again. But what happens when old faithful becomes old fruitless?

Fear not, wary sex traveler; nothing is beyond repair. There are a more than a few ways to keep things fresh (or as Cosmopolitan Magazine likes to say in every other issue, “Spice Up Your Sex Life”). The difference between this blog post and what Cosmo has to say is that it’s presented with the understanding that no two couples, men or women are alike. I can’t tell you what your partner is most likely to respond to any more than I can guess next week’s winning lottery numbers, but I can suggest some simple and proven methods for avoiding the bland sex that eventually results in hand sex.

So let’s start with the basic…a change of scenery. Not every couple’s environment is suitable for outdoor booty calls, but almost all of you have a room or two in the abode where sex hasn’t been on the menu. The great thing about a change of scenery, whether a new room or a field in the middle of nowhere, is that it forces a degree of ingenuity and spontaneity. Lest you live in a studio apartment, there’s probably no bed in the kitchen. What you will find are a table or counter tops, either of which is suitable for a new position (standing) and neither of which allows the positions you’ve relied on in bed. I’m not telling you to go make love in the kitchen (after all, some of you have kids). What I am telling you is that getting away from the bedroom can be a really positive thing.

Next, try to identify the precursors to sex that you usually adhere to and avoid them. Precursors to sex can be something as routine as taking every ounce of clothing off. Do you always kiss your partner on the lips first? Do you lay on a certain side? Do you touch your partner in the same places every time? In the same way every time? These are little things but they add up to predictability. Pay special attention to the signals you use to indicate you want to have sex. They may have come in handy at one time but they can signify a chore if you use them every time.

Another way to keep it fresh is to introduce toys or props. Yes, I know…this is the official blog of a sex toy retailer, but that doesn’t change the fact that toys and props can introduce a whole lot of fun. Even simple, small additions such as clitoris vibrators, blindfolds or even an ice cube can completely change the mood of lovemaking. The use of toys and props also shows your partner that you’re interested in making sex fun, which is in many ways equal to showing that you care about your relationship.

And finally, don’t forget to flirt. Flirting is fun and makes both partners feel sexy. Whether it’s a whisper in the ear in a crowded room or just a lascivious glance in your partner’s direction over dinner, it’s important to remind him or her from time to time that you’re still a sexual being with desires and needs. Sexual appetite can be passed from one person to another, so display yours and give your partner something to think about besides the daily grind.

As always, be clean, safe, adult and mutually consenting.